What is the power struggle?
The power struggle is something that happens in almost all relationships, whether it be with a friend, a co-worker or your significant other. So often we find ourselves controlling the relationship or being the submissive one. Usually the one with the lower self-esteem will be the one to allow the other person to take the wheel and steer the relationship.
From my own personal experiences i’ve had friends who I thought were cooler or better then me, so I would follow their lead. I’ve had friends that looked up to me and they would go for whatever I thought or did.
Same with personal relationships, I’ve been involved with beautiful girls who I always thought were too good for me, we’ve all been there guys! We will do whatever the pretty girl tells us! I’ve also been in relationships where the girl thought I was too good for her. (She must’ve been on something right?) Some of her things were apologizing for stupid little things that weren’t a problem and trying way to hard to win me over.
It’s hard to know when you’re leading because you have your own pre-set perception of how things are supposed to go, but when it does come to light its obvious. Some people take advantage of it, others try to balance it out.
It’s very important to maintain an equally balanced relationship, its a matter of compromise and humility: not control and arrogance. So every once in awhile step back and question yourself and the other person as well.
Tuesday, July 24, 2007
Saturday, February 24, 2007
The "Comfort Zone"
No it's not a posture-pedic, but that would be great.
Recently I had a lesson with one of my instuctors at the school, and I was telling him how I was playing great one day and once I realized how well I was doing, I felt anxious and different then normal, then i proceed to screw the rest of the round up. He told me that I will do anything to shoot in my comfort zone. The "Comfort Zone" is the mind set in which we try to maintain at all times. Then i got to thinking, This not only applies to golf but any situation in general.
Once we are put into a situation that we are uncomfortable in, our first instinct is to get out while we still can. Whether it be a new job, social events or most of the time relationships. How many times have you went to a party, felt a bad vibe then left, and was told the next day by one of your friends you should of stayed or even went to a party and completely regretted it. In the past I felt that way in relationships, it’d go well for a about 4 months then something would happen to my mind then I’d bail on the girl for no reason. Most of the time I ended up regretting it for awhile. I have also seen a lot of people doing the opposite, staying in a relationship just cause they are more comfortable having someone even though he or she may be a complete ass.
Many people have broadened comfort zones, they can pretty much take on anything or anyone and be very level headed about it. Im one the many who have to work on that, on golf and in life. I think when we find ourselves in these situations, we need to step back and take a look at the way we handle these things. "Do I really have a reason to leave?" "Do I really have a reason to stay?"
"Ehh... screw it" can’t always be the answer. You’ll find yourself with a a lot of regrets.
Recently I had a lesson with one of my instuctors at the school, and I was telling him how I was playing great one day and once I realized how well I was doing, I felt anxious and different then normal, then i proceed to screw the rest of the round up. He told me that I will do anything to shoot in my comfort zone. The "Comfort Zone" is the mind set in which we try to maintain at all times. Then i got to thinking, This not only applies to golf but any situation in general.
Once we are put into a situation that we are uncomfortable in, our first instinct is to get out while we still can. Whether it be a new job, social events or most of the time relationships. How many times have you went to a party, felt a bad vibe then left, and was told the next day by one of your friends you should of stayed or even went to a party and completely regretted it. In the past I felt that way in relationships, it’d go well for a about 4 months then something would happen to my mind then I’d bail on the girl for no reason. Most of the time I ended up regretting it for awhile. I have also seen a lot of people doing the opposite, staying in a relationship just cause they are more comfortable having someone even though he or she may be a complete ass.
Many people have broadened comfort zones, they can pretty much take on anything or anyone and be very level headed about it. Im one the many who have to work on that, on golf and in life. I think when we find ourselves in these situations, we need to step back and take a look at the way we handle these things. "Do I really have a reason to leave?" "Do I really have a reason to stay?"
"Ehh... screw it" can’t always be the answer. You’ll find yourself with a a lot of regrets.
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