The "Power Struggle"

What is the power struggle?

The power struggle is something that happens in almost all relationships, whether it be with a friend, a co-worker or your significant other. So often we find ourselves controlling the relationship or being the submissive one. Usually the one with the lower self-esteem will be the one to allow the other person to take the wheel and steer the relationship.

From my own personal experiences i’ve had friends who I thought were cooler or better then me, so I would follow their lead. I’ve had friends that looked up to me and they would go for whatever I thought or did.

Same with personal relationships, I’ve been involved with beautiful girls who I always thought were too good for me, we’ve all been there guys! We will do whatever the pretty girl tells us! I’ve also been in relationships where the girl thought I was too good for her. (She must’ve been on something right?) Some of her things were apologizing for stupid little things that weren’t a problem and trying way to hard to win me over.

It’s hard to know when you’re leading because you have your own pre-set perception of how things are supposed to go, but when it does come to light its obvious. Some people take advantage of it, others try to balance it out.

It’s very important to maintain an equally balanced relationship, its a matter of compromise and humility: not control and arrogance. So every once in awhile step back and question yourself and the other person as well.